What Does It Mean To Really Love Yourself?
What does it mean to love yourself? Like truly, love yourself? Is it a life-long journey? Is there a feeling of completion when we reach a certain age? A finish line of, “yes I’ve made it! I finally love myself”. Or is it just something that we have to work at every day? Me and Self-love go WAYYYYYYYY back. When I was as a young as 12 years old, I found myself starting to compare my body, face, clothing, etc to other people, especially towards other girls!
I became so accustomed to comparing myself that I literally would go on autopilot in the morning, and for the rest of the day compare myself to other girls( at school, at parties, school dances, etc). Whether I was aware of it or not, every time I did compare myself- it was like I was etching away another tally on myself that I was justifying that I wasn’t good enough, pretty enough or worthy of a boyfriend or wearing certain clothes( only if I was tan or toned enough). It was a bumpy road that took many years of trying to fill this void and solve the mystery, of why I didn’t love myself.
I think everyone in their teenage years can feel not good enough or they start comparing themselves. But, if I now had a moment where I could sit with 16 year old Megan and tell her anything…. It would be to stop comparing yourself to other people and enjoy your body where it’s at right now. To stop wishing she were more in shape, or someone else. To HAVE FUN AND REALIZE THAT LIFE GOES BY QUICKLY. I pray that teenagers, especially girls, start practicing routines and self-care habits that make themselves feel beautiful and confident.